Your father is one of the most valuable people that you will ever have in your life as with all of your family members, but most likely there was no one as close to you as your father. What do you do when your father passes? This is a hard question that most of us would just prefer not to think about even as our parents reach their mid-life. We all must face this sooner or later, but with the help of this article, you will be better prepared to handle the inevitable. The most important part is that not all of these methods require a form of money.
Whether the death of a loved-one is expected due to a chronic illness or from an untimely demise brought about by accidents, the grieving process is a huge and stressful challenge. It feels like a part of your body has been amputated, a big part of your life has been taken away, a permanent loss of something very significant. An inevitable part of life that will require you to reprogram and restart a new chapter without them. So, how do we stay strong from this powerful blow of life? How do we cope with this stressful event and move on to the next chapter of our lives bringing only memories of the ones dear to us?
Grief can be an overwhelming emotion that, if not properly processed and overcome by a person, can lead to deleterious mental effects. People cope in many different ways, but with recent advances in internet technology, seeking for support and help can go beyond the virtual realms of chat room services. This article will introduce different online chat rooms that solely talks about grief, loss and how to bounce back and start a new life.
I am witness to the grief and overwhelming sadness of having to lose a loved one – a brother. I was broken, angry, guilty, depressed – and much more. I could only imagine how more magnified those emotions were felt by my parents. Like most parents, mine never thought their son would leave this world ahead of them, and acceptance of that fact was one of the most difficult ordeals that they had, perhaps even until now.
The demise of a loved one almost always leaves us stuck in depression and grief, and some of us remain that way because we do not know how to move forward. However daunting it may be, we soon realize that we must get up and overcome the stage of bereavement to follow the road to recovery – because life must go on.
Moving on is part of the stage of loss that goes along with acceptance. It is the time when one has come to a realization that their loved one is gone and we are left only with vivid memories of them and their lives with us. As for me, moving forward means realizing that my brother is no longer here to joke around with, to fight with, and to share stories with. I still miss him, though, sorely, but I had found healthy and helpful ways to remember him and move forward at the same time, and I’m going to share them here.
Keep yourself busy. Initially, you’re going to have to dump yourself with work to keep your mind off your loss and believe me, it helps. If your job entails you to report to the office by 8 am, leave the house at 7 if you’ve been awake since dawn. You’d be more productive working than depressing over something that cannot be undone. If you’re a home-based mom like I am, write your heart out. Work when you’re done taking care of your family. If nothing comes to mind, search for a new recipe and make it for supper. Do something worthwhile.
Keep in touch with old friends. I had a friend who lost her boyfriend of two years – from a heart attack. They were supposed to get married in a few months. She was devastated and she went away for some time. She kept in touch with me when she learned about the tragic death of my brother, and it was such a blessing that we reunited and rekindled our friendship. We helped each other heal our hurts by talking about them, crying over them, and attending worship service together. Sometimes it feels much better to be with people who have gone through what you’ve gone through.
Live, and I mean just that. Continue living life with the fond memories of your loved one always in your heart. I have learned to talk about my happy memories with my brother among my friends and family. To be honest, tears still start to show, but only because I miss him, not because I have not accepted his death. It is only but right for us – along with those who have experienced sadness and grief from bereavement – to live our lives and make it worthwhile, because death comes for us, too – for all of us.
It is without a doubt that one of the most stressful events in the life of an individual is to lose a loved one from a sudden or mysterious death. To the observer, the pain and loneliness are there but can be dealt with easily, especially if it was ‘a good way to go.’ But to the bereaved, it is more than just the pain. It is the thought of not having to see or touch your loved one forever. Feelings of shock, anger, seclusion, sadness, and confusion get all mixed up from within. There is hopelessness that the wounds can never be healed.
As time goes by, the pain and the sadness lessen, usually after you have gone through the denial, anger, and depression stages of grief. Amidst the mourning, you are now able to open your mind to help yourself with some essential healing measures to cope with bereavement.
The death of someone, though it is a natural phenomenon, is something that you and I will never get used to experiencing. When my parents lost their first-born son, my oldest brother, it was as though everything went blank and the world stopped revolving. The pain was too much to bear, and looking at my parents made the hurt worse. As a family, we had to seek help from a minister and a therapist to guide us through the grief process. Now, I would say we have managed to live life with a purpose, although it wasn’t easy at all.
The passing of a loved one is a sensitive subject that this article will not touch on but rather on what to do with the possessions afterward. Do you keep everything in a box and hide it in the closet? Is your box made from cardboard or of glass material? If it’s in a glass where everyone can see, it may look creepy. Well, that depends on the item and the sentimental value that it has to you. Here’s an interesting article that would be great for future discussions.
What’s To Treasure
*Anything with a story
This is slightly different from gifts with sentimental value because this is a story that you want to share which opens a world of possibilities. Perhaps you can place this item on a glass pedestal somewhere or in a frame where all can see it. If this sounds interesting, do read on.
Not everything has a story that we are willing to share outside of family or with a therapist. Items with sentimental value are better placed somewhere with the least amount of people can see, such as the bedroom, or the family room.
It has been a year since your father passed away. Still, the anguish and loneliness creep in and you continue to grieve by hibernating in the corners of your room, playing busy with work, or simply crying yourself to sleep most nights. You might think, “Will I ever get over my Dad’s death? Will I ever be happy again?”
Losing someone we love is one of the most difficult things that we can ever experience. Though death is a natural phenomenon, that fact is easier understood than accepted. It can never be dealt with just like that. But as the saying goes, this too shall pass, and it will. But then, sometimes you wonder if the pain is ever going to end. How long is the normal way to grieve? Can you do something about it?
The process of grieving is something that we cannot control. Not everyone grieves the same way you do. They may have different channels to their grief. Nevertheless, healing from the pain of losing someone comprises different stages. You will do well if you are aware of these stages. In that way, you can come to terms with your emotions and finally be ready to let go of the pain.Continue reading “The Stages Of Grief And Loss” »
Of all the painful experiences that we go through in life, one of the most devastating is the death of a loved one. We may deal with the loss in different ways, but the emotions are the same – sadness, anger, anxiety, hopelessness. It is just too heartbreaking. Sometimes, the grieving process lengthens and becomes long term. Therefore, the individual suffers complicated grief. When this grief is so intense that it affects his day-to-day activities, he has possibly gone into a depressive state, which causes more negative emotions and behaviors, like loss of will, alcohol addiction, which cause compounding problems as they have to deal with more issues and seek help with addiction, depression, among others.
Losing my husband is probably the most nerve-wrecking, most heartbreaking, most energy-draining, and most soulful experience I ever had. It was toughest of the toughest challenges that I didn’t believe I will be able to surpass. I thought that it was also the end for me. I thought I would never live my life again after my husband has passed. But because of my husband, himself, I was able to put back my broken pieces of heart, soul and mind into one again. Let me tell you how I managed to cope with my husband’s passing.