Whether the death of a loved-one is expected due to a chronic illness or from an untimely demise brought about by accidents, the grieving process is a huge and stressful challenge. It feels like a part of your body has been amputated, a big part of your life has been taken away, a permanent loss of something very significant. An inevitable part of life that will require you to reprogram and restart a new chapter without them. So, how do we stay strong from this powerful blow of life? How do we cope with this stressful event and move on to the next chapter of our lives bringing only memories of the ones dear to us?
It is without a doubt that one of the most stressful events in the life of an individual is to lose a loved one from a sudden or mysterious death. To the observer, the pain and loneliness are there but can be dealt with easily, especially if it was ‘a good way to go.’ But to the bereaved, it is more than just the pain. It is the thought of not having to see or touch your loved one forever. Feelings of shock, anger, seclusion, sadness, and confusion get all mixed up from within. There is hopelessness that the wounds can never be healed.
As time goes by, the pain and the sadness lessen, usually after you have gone through the denial, anger, and depression stages of grief. Amidst the mourning, you are now able to open your mind to help yourself with some essential healing measures to cope with bereavement.
The death of someone, though it is a natural phenomenon, is something that you and I will never get used to experiencing. When my parents lost their first-born son, my oldest brother, it was as though everything went blank and the world stopped revolving. The pain was too much to bear, and looking at my parents made the hurt worse. As a family, we had to seek help from a minister and a therapist to guide us through the grief process. Now, I would say we have managed to live life with a purpose, although it wasn’t easy at all.
Of all the painful experiences that we go through in life, one of the most devastating is the death of a loved one. We may deal with the loss in different ways, but the emotions are the same – sadness, anger, anxiety, hopelessness. It is just too heartbreaking. Sometimes, the grieving process lengthens and becomes long term. Therefore, the individual suffers complicated grief. When this grief is so intense that it affects his day-to-day activities, he has possibly gone into a depressive state, which causes more negative emotions and behaviors, like loss of will, alcohol addiction, which cause compounding problems as they have to deal with more issues and seek help with addiction, depression, among others.
Losing my husband is probably the most nerve-wrecking, most heartbreaking, most energy-draining, and most soulful experience I ever had. It was toughest of the toughest challenges that I didn’t believe I will be able to surpass. I thought that it was also the end for me. I thought I would never live my life again after my husband has passed. But because of my husband, himself, I was able to put back my broken pieces of heart, soul and mind into one again. Let me tell you how I managed to cope with my husband’s passing.
After someone has passed away, the people who left behind will be tasked to carry what they used to do while they were still alive. This may not be a particularly easy job, especially when the individual is a member of the family and/or that person was a close friend. Therefore, whether we like it or not, things must be done properly. Regardless of your religion, grieving after someone’s loss is somehow a healthy one and is completely necessary. However, some people suffer more than others and seem to be able to cope with what has happened. If you are suffering from depression or you simply can’t cope, contact a professional counselor through free online counseling and they will be able to help you back on the road to recovery.
It all happened so fast. I was in a car with my husband traveling to Vegas to celebrate our 15th marriage anniversary. We were so happy. Both of us have never been to Vegas so we are really hoping for quite an experience. We were so giddy, excited, and singing happily with the radio. Then suddenly, something hit us. Hard.
When I was a kid, I thought death only comes to those who are old and sick. My dad wasn’t any of those. He was young (46 years old when he passed away) and was generally healthy. Although, he has maintenance medicines to keep him going. He was a big man whom by looks alone demands attention and dictates authority. How could he just be beaten by his first cardiac arrest? I don’t know. I had just seen him that morning before he took a shower, I didn’t know it would be the last.
If there’s one thing you and I have in common, it’s the fact that we all have experienced a death of a loved one/relative/friend or know someone who has been in that situation and lost a family member/friend/etc. Death is an inevitable part of life that we would all have to face at some point. But the silly thing is, no matter how much we understand and know that it would hit us or someone we know, we all still get surprised when it happens.
Losing a loved one is never easy. It might not be obvious but children feel grief just like older people do. To help your child cope with loss, it’s always a good idea to create an environment of acceptance and comfort.