It all happened so fast. I was in a car with my husband traveling to Vegas to celebrate our 15th marriage anniversary. We were so happy. Both of us have never been to Vegas so we are really hoping for quite an experience. We were so giddy, excited, and singing happily with the radio. Then suddenly, something hit us. Hard.
Death is a natural process. Nevertheless, you will never be prepared once you experience a death of someone. It will surely be devastating. You may even think that there’s no way in this world you can go back to your normal life again. But, just like how the saying goes, “there’s always a rainbow after a rain.”
When I was a kid, I thought death only comes to those who are old and sick. My dad wasn’t any of those. He was young (46 years old when he passed away) and was generally healthy. Although, he has maintenance medicines to keep him going. He was a big man whom by looks alone demands attention and dictates authority. How could he just be beaten by his first cardiac arrest? I don’t know. I had just seen him that morning before he took a shower, I didn’t know it would be the last.
Missing My Brother
My brother will be turning 42 tomorrow – if he would have been alive to witness his birthday. Oh, how he loved celebrating his birthdays. He would be ecstatic when there were family gatherings and parties, especially his own. When everyone was complete, including his long lost friends, he would wear his dashing smile all night.
And food – too much food – was one of his weaknesses. He would eat breakfast three times – once in their house, another at my mom and dad’s, and third at mine. That’s why despite the drug addiction that he was into and the many problems he had, he never looked like someone who was broken inside.
If there’s one thing you and I have in common, it’s the fact that we all have experienced a death of a loved one/relative/friend or know someone who has been in that situation and lost a family member/friend/etc. Death is an inevitable part of life that we would all have to face at some point. But the silly thing is, no matter how much we understand and know that it would hit us or someone we know, we all still get surprised when it happens.
Losing a loved one is never easy. It might not be obvious but children feel grief just like older people do. To help your child cope with loss, it’s always a good idea to create an environment of acceptance and comfort.
In the movie ‘Wild’, the main character Cheryl Strayed hiked 1,100 miles of the Pacific West Trail as her own way to cope with the loss of her mother. This experience had made a huge impact on her healing process. While hiking a 2,650-mile long terrain may seem a bit over the top, traveling may help you cope with your loss in the way Cheryl Strayed’s hiking trip did to her.
You have every right to mourn about the death of your best friend. Your best friend is the one who has been with you through thick and thin. This special person has sealed that gap in love that your parents or lovers might have failed to provide.
Coping with the death of your loved ones can be extremely difficult. The manner of their death can also become a contributory factor to this difficulty. Sometimes, it is just unimaginable to grasp the death of a loved one who committed suicide. Here are some of the things you can do to cope better with this dilemma: